When we walked into the loft for our training session, I had no idea what to expect. I was full of doubt, anxiety, stage fright, and a little bloated confidence. We had been doing this at least twice a day for over a year now, how could one man's insight possibly provide more pleasure in our practice?
I was about to find out.
Adam had suggested we have a training session back in December—let's be honest, actually, he told me we would be having one—as a way to prepare me for our Sensuality Expansion Program coming up toward the end of this year. The SEP is a ten day course led by Erwan and Alicia Davon, of Erwan Davon Teachings, where we head to the comfort and seclusion of a local hot spring resort to learn about DOing—or, the practice of deliberate orgasm. The first few sessions are spent in resolution. This is where Erwan and Alicia argue for the participant's perfection, and we (the participant) explain all the reasons why we are imperfect and undeserving. Erwan and Alicia win in the end, and that's when we move on to the good stuff. When Adam first suggested we take the SEP, I was excited but totally unnerved at having to dredge up all the muck and mire of my inner shadows just to experience the training to have a better orgasm.
Hence, our training session last week. It was his subtle way of easing me into our upcoming program, and of showing me all I have to look forward to. Admittedly, I'm glad we got sick in December and had to reschedule our initial date. I was far too full of anxiety at that time to have reaped the full benefit of this little adventure. But now, Spring is in the air! And I am ready for a deeper level of intimacy.
When Adam and I started dating, he made me the proposition that if I were to stay the night in his bed, I was obligated to wake up with a DO date (about 15 minutes, give or take, of clitoral stroking bringing me to extended orgasm without necessarily taking me over "The Edge"). That agreement is still in effect now that we are living together, and what an amazing life that has created for us! Actually, it is more challenging than it might seem, but we make it work. So, with this in mind, it brings me back to my initial inquiry—how could one man's insight bring us any closer, and me any more pleasure than what my man already does?
We started the session by settling in to the spare bedroom and chatting. Over the past year and a half, I have grown closer to Alicia's charismatic self, but Erwan has remained mysterious and somewhat elusive. I think this perception is to what I owe at least a little of my nervousness, but the conversation helped to crack my defensive shell and put me well at ease. He started by asking Adam what a typical DO date was like with us, then put his attention mostly on me. I relayed the levels of pleasure I experienced at the hands of my lover, and also the difficulty I have at times staying with that pleasure. We discovered together that at times when the sensation is heightened, I fog over, check out, and/or start writing lists in my head—I know it sounds funny, but my favorite escape is to write menus and shopping lists. Some of my greatest food designs have sprung up in these times of ultimate bliss, but that doesn't change the fact that I am not present in the moment and staying connected to my handler. I had known this was happening, and would try to force myself back to presence when I would notice, but that was not always successful, and certainly wasn't getting to the heart of what was really happening. Erwan asked me to take some time to feel through what happens in those moments of fogginess, and that's where I discovered fear. It was almost incomprehensible to me that I could feel that damned emotion with one I felt so safe with, and who I had grown to love so deeply. But, alas...
It was with this discovery that my coach suggested I give myself the space to be afraid, or to simply feel whatever would come up for me in those uncomfortable, and extremely pleasurable, times. And to do more than that, he suggested that I feel right with those emotions, not try to change anything, and just be.
That's when the fun began...
Erwan invited his wife to undress and lay down on the bed with her privates exposed to us. Alicia is a soft, fit woman with creamy thighs whose pussy looked bruised in that moment against the backdrop of her golden skin. He sat by her side, in the DOing position, and placed his hands on her heart and abdomen. She started to shudder, and I could feel her drop into her body almost immediately. Erwan first took the time to "bring her down" by firmly grasping those tender thighs, steadily working out the tumescence. Then he worked his way inward, and with a heavily lubed hand, stroked upward from Alicia's introitus to her plumping hood. I felt so connected to every stroke as they took us on the ride of their demonstration. The orgasm of Alicia easily flowed through my body, and I marveled at the way her lips puffed, her vaginal opening fluttered, and her entire groin changed colors like the sunset with the undulations of her experience.
Then it was my turn. I was so turned on and ready to have Adam's skillful hands on my body, all caution was thrown to the wind as I lunged for the bed and quickly stripped off my pants. We settled in with some deep touch, then went on our own roller coaster ride of sensation as my partner used the most dexterous part of his body to bring pleasure to the most sensitive part of mine. At each peak, I could feel the swell of fear and the desire to check out. In each of those moments, Erwan was so in tune with us that he could feel this arise and deftly instructed Adam to bring me down, bring me down, bring me down. Even though we were mostly "going down" I had never experienced a flood of more sensation! My heart opened up to limits unknown before, and I felt a deeper connection with Adam than I ever thought possible. With each crest of orgasm that overtook me, I released my tension and pushed out through my womb, opening up my sits bones and relaxing the grip in my hips. This led to even higher highs, and every time I felt I couldn't handle any more delicious joy, another wave would break over me and crash that thought to the floor.
We walked out of that session as if on air, and drove home feeling the love for this amazing City by the Bay anew. Our already amazing deliberate orgasm practice has unfolded in ways I can't begin to describe from just one hour of coaching—silly me. I can't wait to see what the Paradise Course in Mexico brings, just a few short weeks away, and not to mention that dreaded Sensuality Expansion Program in the fall.
Who knew this life could be so good?!
I was about to find out.
Adam had suggested we have a training session back in December—let's be honest, actually, he told me we would be having one—as a way to prepare me for our Sensuality Expansion Program coming up toward the end of this year. The SEP is a ten day course led by Erwan and Alicia Davon, of Erwan Davon Teachings, where we head to the comfort and seclusion of a local hot spring resort to learn about DOing—or, the practice of deliberate orgasm. The first few sessions are spent in resolution. This is where Erwan and Alicia argue for the participant's perfection, and we (the participant) explain all the reasons why we are imperfect and undeserving. Erwan and Alicia win in the end, and that's when we move on to the good stuff. When Adam first suggested we take the SEP, I was excited but totally unnerved at having to dredge up all the muck and mire of my inner shadows just to experience the training to have a better orgasm.
Hence, our training session last week. It was his subtle way of easing me into our upcoming program, and of showing me all I have to look forward to. Admittedly, I'm glad we got sick in December and had to reschedule our initial date. I was far too full of anxiety at that time to have reaped the full benefit of this little adventure. But now, Spring is in the air! And I am ready for a deeper level of intimacy.
When Adam and I started dating, he made me the proposition that if I were to stay the night in his bed, I was obligated to wake up with a DO date (about 15 minutes, give or take, of clitoral stroking bringing me to extended orgasm without necessarily taking me over "The Edge"). That agreement is still in effect now that we are living together, and what an amazing life that has created for us! Actually, it is more challenging than it might seem, but we make it work. So, with this in mind, it brings me back to my initial inquiry—how could one man's insight bring us any closer, and me any more pleasure than what my man already does?
We started the session by settling in to the spare bedroom and chatting. Over the past year and a half, I have grown closer to Alicia's charismatic self, but Erwan has remained mysterious and somewhat elusive. I think this perception is to what I owe at least a little of my nervousness, but the conversation helped to crack my defensive shell and put me well at ease. He started by asking Adam what a typical DO date was like with us, then put his attention mostly on me. I relayed the levels of pleasure I experienced at the hands of my lover, and also the difficulty I have at times staying with that pleasure. We discovered together that at times when the sensation is heightened, I fog over, check out, and/or start writing lists in my head—I know it sounds funny, but my favorite escape is to write menus and shopping lists. Some of my greatest food designs have sprung up in these times of ultimate bliss, but that doesn't change the fact that I am not present in the moment and staying connected to my handler. I had known this was happening, and would try to force myself back to presence when I would notice, but that was not always successful, and certainly wasn't getting to the heart of what was really happening. Erwan asked me to take some time to feel through what happens in those moments of fogginess, and that's where I discovered fear. It was almost incomprehensible to me that I could feel that damned emotion with one I felt so safe with, and who I had grown to love so deeply. But, alas...
It was with this discovery that my coach suggested I give myself the space to be afraid, or to simply feel whatever would come up for me in those uncomfortable, and extremely pleasurable, times. And to do more than that, he suggested that I feel right with those emotions, not try to change anything, and just be.
That's when the fun began...
Erwan invited his wife to undress and lay down on the bed with her privates exposed to us. Alicia is a soft, fit woman with creamy thighs whose pussy looked bruised in that moment against the backdrop of her golden skin. He sat by her side, in the DOing position, and placed his hands on her heart and abdomen. She started to shudder, and I could feel her drop into her body almost immediately. Erwan first took the time to "bring her down" by firmly grasping those tender thighs, steadily working out the tumescence. Then he worked his way inward, and with a heavily lubed hand, stroked upward from Alicia's introitus to her plumping hood. I felt so connected to every stroke as they took us on the ride of their demonstration. The orgasm of Alicia easily flowed through my body, and I marveled at the way her lips puffed, her vaginal opening fluttered, and her entire groin changed colors like the sunset with the undulations of her experience.
Then it was my turn. I was so turned on and ready to have Adam's skillful hands on my body, all caution was thrown to the wind as I lunged for the bed and quickly stripped off my pants. We settled in with some deep touch, then went on our own roller coaster ride of sensation as my partner used the most dexterous part of his body to bring pleasure to the most sensitive part of mine. At each peak, I could feel the swell of fear and the desire to check out. In each of those moments, Erwan was so in tune with us that he could feel this arise and deftly instructed Adam to bring me down, bring me down, bring me down. Even though we were mostly "going down" I had never experienced a flood of more sensation! My heart opened up to limits unknown before, and I felt a deeper connection with Adam than I ever thought possible. With each crest of orgasm that overtook me, I released my tension and pushed out through my womb, opening up my sits bones and relaxing the grip in my hips. This led to even higher highs, and every time I felt I couldn't handle any more delicious joy, another wave would break over me and crash that thought to the floor.
We walked out of that session as if on air, and drove home feeling the love for this amazing City by the Bay anew. Our already amazing deliberate orgasm practice has unfolded in ways I can't begin to describe from just one hour of coaching—silly me. I can't wait to see what the Paradise Course in Mexico brings, just a few short weeks away, and not to mention that dreaded Sensuality Expansion Program in the fall.
Who knew this life could be so good?!
