Age of the Woman and the Birthright of Extended Orgasm

Many spiritual elders—Chiefs, Grandmothers, Astrologers, and the like—have expressed time and again that we are now heading into the Age of Woman. But what does that mean? It's time for us to take back our power, yes! But, what is that power? Where does it come from? How do we make contact with it, and then harness it? Essentially, I believe, it boils down to sex. Humans, for as much as we might like to feel we are somehow outside of the biological makeup of the world, are animals, and mammals at that. In mammals, the female carries the heat for the species. Most mammals have heat cycles that flow with the moon and seasons. Humans are lucky enough to catch a ride with both of these tides, and to have an added bonus of situational, and most importantly, volitional heat. In this Time of the Woman we will come to realize human is neither above, nor below, any other part of creation. We are but one strand in the web of reality, and all threads are needed to create this tapestry of life, and that realization will come to us through sex.

I have had the privilege of practicing extended orgasm with my partner for almost two years now, and have experienced the myriad joys that come from such work. It might sound funny, but this is the mystery school I've been searching for my whole life. The psychological sabotage that one must surrender to in order to go higher is almost unfathomable until one takes on this delightful challenge. For a woman to experience an extended, full bodied orgasm, she must face all of her fears, anger, insecurities, mistrust, and expectations—then, feel those feelings and get right with them in order to experience the full ecstasy her clitoris is capable of providing her. For a man, I'm sure much is the same. He must find a way to drop his ego, and drive "to get his", to be able to put his full attention on, and be fully connected to, the woman in his care. He, too, can experience extended orgasm in his body without ejaculation, but only if he is capable of stimulating that in his lady. At the last Pleasure Course, Erwan mentioned that extended orgasm is not just a privilege for us select few humans, but it is a birth right for the entire species!

Can you imagine what this world might be like if we all knew, and practiced, extended orgasm? I have some ideas...

After I was raped in my early twenties, there was much to be processed. In fact, this practice is helping me to complete that process. But, often I would find myself wondering, amidst the pain and anger I felt for this man (and all men, really), what happened in his life that he felt this was the only way he could assert himself with women? How powerless he must feel to need to take some back in such a way. I am still angry (and hurt, and scared), but I also feel tremendous compassion for him. Can you imagine if he knew how to bring any, and every, woman to extended orgasm for as long as she wanted with just the touch of his finger? I doubt he would have a need for getting girls black-out drunk so he could shamefully have some fun. And what could the repercussions be globally? Would we still need giant nuclear warheads in the shape of dildos to show how big our national cocks were? In my mind, that is doubtful. I also feel that the terrible atrocities committed against women in every country, every day, would begin to ebb, and the split between the sexes might finally begin to heal.

But first, we must admit that we are animals. And in our slice of critter pie, Woman is the heat generator, and Man is the receptor. When a turned-on woman walks down the street and a group of men responds with looks, whistles, and cat-calls, they aren't being pigs, they are just being human. If a man is suffering from erectile dysfunction, he likely doesn't need a pill as much as he might need to turn his woman on. His pleasure is directly linked to her and how much she feels—the more pleasure she receives, the more he will feel, and the better his life will be. For us ladies, if we come home and the trash that hasn't been taken out invokes homicidal fantasies, maybe what we really need is a release of tumescence with some clitoral stimulation, and the use of a training cycle (praise, request, praise).

Next, we as women will need to get right with our appetite. The fantasy of Victorian ideals that still seems to cling (in this society, at least), is a misnomer. We are not a Madonna or a Whore, we are both, and we are hungry, and that is okay. In fact, that hunger is the driving force of this planet. As Tom Robbins so astutely points out in Skinny Legs and All, all of life on this green earth has been brought forth and sustained by sex. Sex is good. Sex is holy. Sex is spiritual and transformative. And for Human, sex is not just for procreation. The sooner we accept this, the better off everything will be. If we have been designed in the image of God, and if this body is the vehicle that deity saw fit to house the immaculate nature of our soul, then I highly doubt the clitoris is a design flaw. I believe the pleasure we are capable of experiencing through sex is the reflection of our Godly natures, as this is the ecstasy through which being brings being into existence.

That being written, Ladies, recognize that this acceptance will take time. We are angry, we are hurt, we are frightened, and we should be. We have been ignoring, and pushing away nearly every feeling that creeps up inside us because it's not how we should act, or how we should feel—it's not lady-like, or attractive. Well, guess what? Ignoring something does not make it go away. Take it from me, that shit sticks around growing and growing like a constipated turd, until it can no longer be ignored, and it craps right out of us. That's okay, too. But, it is not okay to shit on those around us just because we haven't been able to use a toilet in millennia. The men of the world have been losing in the current equation, too, and nobody wins until we can responsibly take care of our waste. Feel it. Pass it. Deal with it. Don't act out on it—that only maintains this cycle of painful abuse.

Men build bridges and fight wars because they want to get laid. We, as women, have the power in our pussies to have them lead us where we want to go. If we truly want a life of healing, peace, balance, and joy on this planet, we must first realize that within the microcosm of our own being. Once we get right with our appetite, we will start having more of the world we want, and far less of what we don't want.